The angst of conflict can be transcended. The Seven Laws of Peaceful Solutions shape the core of reaching win/win results.

The Seven Laws are based in natural law and are neither created nor made. They are discovered. Once you discover the laws, and understand how they work, you can create any result you choose.

As Galileo said: "All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them."

The Seven Laws of Peaceful Solutions serve as the framework for the resolution process of the Institute for Peaceful Solutions. The mission is to resolve disputes from the inside ... out - permanently.

The Law of Unity

Human consciousness connects us all. Physics shows us that the universe is a vibratory field of which we are a part.

You are connected to, and part of everything - part of the 'unified consciousness.'

Unified consciousness has no limitation or form, and transcends time and space. We can tap into the unified field and be in perfect alignment. We are never separated from this energy, yet if we dwell on feelings of loss, fear of death or other limitations we experience separation, which results in guilt, doubt and depression.

All forms of negotiation begin with finding a common ground with one's enemy or opponent.

Here's how to use the Law of Unity.

- First, quiet your mind. - Second, you'll notice that feelings like worry, anger and aggression come from your thoughts. - You can recognize common ground between you and your opponents.

How do you quiet your mind? By letting your mind rest ... sit in silence for fifteen minutes two times per day and focus on your breathing. We call this quiet time 'Contemplation.'

2. The Law of Perception

- Perception creates reality. - Reality is an interpretation. - Perception is based on past history and belief, and is not the truth. - Your feelings about a person or situation are 'your feelings.' They are not someone else's fault or the truth.

We form perceptions that are not the "truth," but a viewpoint that affects our version of any heated clash. When we accept our perceptions without making them true for anyone else and without judging ourselves, we recognize that we blame our opponents for our own thorny circumstances.

Many perceptions are formed by the time we reach the age of six. Unless we change our viewpoints we'll continue to react based on the view we made up before we attained the age of reason, or entered elementary school. Neuroscience shows us that we can restructure our troublesome perceptions.

3. The Law of Cause and Effect

- Thoughts are causes that create effects. - You can choose the conditions of your life. - Problems are rooted in thinking patterns. - You are imbued with the ability to create your world.

Presuming you've been practicing 'Contemplation' and your mind is quiet, you'll recognize that thoughts occur without any external stimulation.

We direct our lives through our unconscious thoughts and awareness.

We reap what we sow. All thoughts create a result. You can't stuff a distressing thought and pretend it won't affect you. You'll experience the effect of your thoughts, either in reactive behavior or in your body, or both. Thoughts and perceptions are causes, not results.

4. The Law of Alignment

- Everyone knows when he/she is acting from integrity. - By bringing your hidden motives and agendas to the surface you also learn to uncover the genuine objectives of others. You can make known the unknown - When you align your conscious and unconscious mind you attract the people, things and events that resonate with your alignment. - You create a matrix of support to fulfill your destiny and transform your life. - You can align with your purpose and take charge of your life.

The Law of Alignment focuses on the congruency of what you say, do and think - creating a coherency where you are acting according to your authenticity, integrity, and destiny. By avoiding distractions you can reach your authentic way of living, your personal alignment with your purpose and integrity.

The problem occurs when you're distracted and swirling mindlessly in a distraction loop. A distraction loop is like a skip in a CD; the same thing keeps replaying itself. This is how Distraction Loops operate:

- We behave like dogs chasing our tails, or hamsters running in a wheel. - We keep going around and around but never get anywhere. - Results are the same, one conflict after another. - Emotions, feelings and thoughts remain the same, and circumstances become more intense and distressing. - A downward spiral continues.

If you feel this way, you're trapped in a distraction loop. Continue to blame and you'll continue the downward spiral. Your real enemies are thoughts of anger, blame, and resentment.

How can you pull yourself out of a distraction loop? Take charge of your mind!

5. The Law of Mental Attention

- What you focus on expands - Whatever you concentrate on is enhanced. - Whatever you move your attention from, ignore, will shrivel, diminish and vanish.

If you center your thoughts on what you want, rather than what you don't want, you'll get what you want.

You have a choice.

Choose:

- Peace not anger - Trust in place of blame - Freedom instead of worry - Success replaces failure

Post your choices on the bathroom mirror and say them aloud twice a day, just before your 'contemplation' or 'quiet time.' Old patterns may surface, but if you continue to change your thoughts, a major shift can occur.

6. The Law of Giving

- Serving others honors both the served and server. - Focus on giving to others shifts the spotlight from self-interest. - Concentrating on service opens the flow of communication between giver and receiver. - Be grateful for your talents and gifts, embrace creative sustenance and become a magnet for material prosperity. - Prosperity follows service.

Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. One does not exist without the other and each is equally necessary. Serving others requires that we recognize our talents and gifts, and give to those around us. As we do so, we humble ourselves.

What can you contribute to your community that is unique? Look inside yourself to find something you enjoy and are good at. Be creative and find a way to use your skills to help others and your life can change dramatically.

7. The Law of Redemption

- All is forgiven. You are free. - Redemption is obtained when we embrace both our shadow side and creator self together without judgment. - By accepting the good, the bad and the ugly while rejoicing in the knowledge that you are uniquely connected, all perceptions and perceived sins of the past are forgiven. - You can focus on creating your life and living fully.

If you change your mind, you change your life. You don't have to punish yourself for the errors of your past. Letting go of your negative feelings and situations will give you a clean slate from which you may start again.

Creating Win\Win Solutions

If you adhere to The Seven Laws of Peaceful Solutions you can create win\win solutions and rise above the fray of hidden agendas, and the "win-at-all-cost" mentality. By recognizing the cause, and focusing on the solution - resolution can be achieved.

Through cooperation and collaboration deep personal issues can be addressed without destruction and disputes are solved from where they arise.

Celebrate the positive. Move focus to that which you want in your life and away from that which feels sordid and repugnant. Through this intention you create a meeting of the minds; a powerful meeting that can make a difference.
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About the Author

Constance d'Angelis is a speaker, workshop leader, and author of the forthcoming book The Seven Laws of Peaceful Solutions, a practical guide to finding peace in the living room and the courtroom. She is a co-founder and facilitator of the Institute for Peaceful Solutions and is wholly committed to helping people resolve conflicts peacefully. Please visit her site for more information. http://www.constancedangelis.com