Relationships are the crux of life. Everything we think, say or do occurs in the context of relationship, whether it’s with a love interest, family member, colleague, neighbor, higher power, self, or nature in general. Mastering the art of relationship allows for a life that thrives in all areas.

Many don’t realize their power to transform a relationship using the Law of Attraction. For those not familiar with this law, simply put, it’s a Universal principle dictating that “like attracts like.” Since everything in the Universe is made of energy, as energy vibrates, it attracts. Your energy is made up of your thoughts and feelings. So everything you experience is something you attracted in accordance with your vibration.

Who Are You Attracting?
My 41 year old sister-in-law, whom I love dearly, has a habit of being neglected and hastily dumped by each man she dates. (Fourteen times in a year and a half since her divorce!) Yet she’s an attractive, loving, generous woman. Is she an innocent victim of a daft male population (her theory) or is she attracting relationships in perfect alignment with her vibration (smart money bet)?

You may have seen her routine before: she approaches each new love interest with a subconscious fear and assumption that he won’t like her once he knows her. Even before their first date, she’s braced for rejection. And guess what happens? She feels rejected, over and over again.

She gets what she vibrates.

It’s All About You
Your relationships (or lack of them) are a reflection of what you think and feel (i.e. vibrate). Specifically, the people in your life mirror what you’ve got going on inside. Which means if you have a relationship you’d like to transform, it starts with you - and what you’re vibrating.

Remember that like attracts like, so when we change what we think and feel, the people in our lives must reflect that change. So if your husband doesn’t romance you the way you prefer, a supervisor or co-worker makes your job a living hell, or a family member creates havoc in your life - the solution isn’t figuring out how to get them to change or go away. The solution lies in changing what you vibrate. Until you change what you’re vibrating, you’ll experience the same things with others in your life.

The Power of Changing Your Vibe
What are you feeling when your roommate finishes the last drink or runs a load of hot laundry as you start a shower? Irritated, maybe resentful? In that moment, and every other moment you dwell on it, you’re vibrating irritation and resentment. As you vibrate irritation, you’re attracting more experiences to irritate you. She gets a parking ticket in your car, comes up short on rent payment, invites her boyfriend to stay over. The Universe is amazingly creative in delivering situations to match what you vibrate.

How do you get your roommate to stop irritating you? Remember it’s not about her; this is your vibration attracting your experiences, situations and circumstances. She can’t show up as irritating if you aren’t vibrating it. So release the feeling of “irritated.”

As you redirect your attention, you change your vibration. Instead of getting caught up in what you don’t like about what she’s doing, what do you like? What do you want? Hold that in mind. Maybe she’s gifted with a sense of humor that always makes you laugh, supports you by working out together, or makes great coffee.

Once you learn to consistently redirect your attention to what you like, you’ll find your feelings about this person improving significantly. From that place it’s much easier to elicit behavior that suits you by focusing on what you want instead of what bothers you.

Who’s In Charge Here?
When you change what you vibrate, the Universal Law of Attraction requires that your experiences match the vibration. So moving your internal dial from “irritated” to “pleased” means the world must begin pleasing you. And if your roommate isn’t a match to pleasing you, she’ll become someone else’s roommate.

By releasing feelings of “anger” and replacing them with “peace,” you find yourself in fewer situations that arouse your anger and in more that foster peace. Even people who are naturally anger-arousing will behave inexplicably different with you.

But don’t take my word for it – put it to the test! Try it for yourself and see what happens. Whether it’s with your boss, your toddler or your sweetie, when you change what you’re feeling about them, they’ll show up differently for you.

As you recognize your responsibility for the relationships in your life, you gain control of the reins to create what you want. Remember it’s all an inside job, originating with your thoughts and feelings, which you have the power to choose. Choose well, friends!

Jeannette Maw is an Attraction Coach and founder of Good Vibe Coaching in Salt Lake City, Utah. Free tips and strategies to make your dreams come true are yours by signing up for her free "Get What You Want" ezine at http://www.goodvibecoach.com, where you'll also find insightful articles on leveraging the Law of Attraction.

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